Feelin’ like a mom on my guys first day of the Police Academy. He woke up at 3:30 am and I wont hear back from him until around 7 tonight. Can’t help myself from wondering if he’s making new friends, or brought a good lunch, or what he wore. I guess this is a sign ill make a good mom someday right 😉
Since we are long distance these next 12 weeks will be extra hard. I know he has to remain focused during his training and that means no weekend trips to see me and no long facetime calls each night. One way we decided to get through this is by putting aside a time each week dedicated to facetiming eachother for an hour. I am extremely busy when I am away at school but have put this in my Wednesday night planner as a priority! Having a set day and time to talk “face to face” will give us both something to look forward to in the middle of our crazy weeks 🙂
So here I am doing something I never thought I would. My family is filled with cops, my dad being one of them. I always told myself I could never be a police girlfriend, I couldn’t deal with the lonely nights, weird schedules, and the worry that comes with loving someone that is risking their life every day and night.
However, life has a funny way of doing what you least expect. My boyfriend is now officially a police officer in our hometown, and is beginning the Police Academy while I am away at school. For the next 3 months I am kinda feeling single… Not being able to talk to him from 6am-6pm, plus being a few hours away is a struggle.
I want to reach out and find more Police Significant Other’s to share this journey with!
Feel free to share with anyone you know is going through/has gone through the same thing.
WOAH. The past few months have truly been life changing for me. I have learned how to find myself without the help of anyone else. Finding yourself seems to always happen in these twenty-something years. It might happen after college, some life changing experience, or post-breakup.
For me, it was the later. I never realized how much “Me” was being pushed under the surface during a relationship I was in for the longest time. After it ended, I remembered the things that made ME happy. Quiet mornings at Starbucks with a cup of coffee, spending time with my family, and being stress free were things I gained out of this.
I remembered that I am a strong women, although I do like to have a man in my life, I don’t NEED one. It is possible to be happy by yourself, and I think that is something that people my age have a hard time dealing with. Too often we see 17yr olds in “serious” relationships until age 21, and then they are absolutely lost when that relationship ends and they are left to find themselves. Have no fear little ones…
I promise, finding yourself will be the most beautiful thing that could ever happen in your life.
Today I experienced the compassion of a complete stranger.
This morning was a beautiful day outside, so I woke up in a fantastic mood! However, after an annoying meeting with my Academic Advisor, I was feeling pretty down.
I decided to go to Starbucks to get some coffee and do some homework! As I was waiting for my drink, a man tapped me on my shoulder, I whipped around confused who it could be, and he said
“Hey! You have a great day, god bless you and I hope everything goes your way today!”
I gave him a half smile, a giggle, and said thank you and was on my way with my coffee. But, as I sat there with my drink I was thinking about how truly kind that one sentence was. I don’t know if he could tell that I was feeling down, or was just being nice but whatever it was it truly changed my attitude.
It takes a special kind of person to have that type of compassion to a stranger. From now on, I challenge everyone who reads this post to take a second that day or the next, to simply give a stranger a smile and a GENUINE “have a good day!”
Too often we just say “thanks” under our breath to the person who holds the door for us, or give a nod of thanks to the man that hands your coffee over the counter. We are humans, and humans need genuine human interactions. I guarantee that a warm smile and a genuine “have a great afternoon!” will be able to make someone’s day!
Spread the love and happiness ❤
So. my college life so far has been filled with many wonderful times of being the dreaded… wait for it… third wheel.
before you get sad and picture me as some lonely crazy cat women…
I have a boyfriend. hes just about 300 miles away.
Long distance love is tough. and its even harder in college. me and my man have made it through a year of this long distance looooveeee. all it takes is a lot of trust, communication, love, and snapchats of course!
but on a serious note, being in this long distance relationship has taught me so much about myself. I don’t care what anyone says, relationships in college are the way to go. being in a serious relationship has made me grow as a person tremendously. during the year where a lot of my friends are trying to figure out what they want to eat for dinner, im talking with my guy about future apartments, jobs, and our life! having such a solid future to think about makes all the homework and school worth it! not to mention, having countdowns on when I will get to see my boyfriend again gives me something to look forward to during the long, hard, weeks!
now the 3rd wheel part……..
so I went into college with a group of friends from back home. these friends all decided to date each other. surprisingly, all these relationships are strong as ever and don’t cause drama for the group. however, this means that I am always the third wheel. I guess im lucky that their both always my friends, so its not awkward. I am constantly spending lunch with my best friend and her boyfriend (also my best friend.)
the only time this sucks is on the weeknights when all I want to do is cuddle and watch a movie with my guy like everyone else.. but hes 300 miles away. boo.
although long distance is tough (that’s another topic for another blogpost..) I count my blessing each and every day that I have someone to miss, someone to long for, and someone to look forward to seeing. even if its only once a month! ❤
today is one of those days. you know.. those days where you fall out of bed, cant find your favorite leggings, your hair does NOT want to look even mildly attractive, and your coffee doesn’t taste good.
not to mention, you get to go deal with professors that get paid very well to do absolutely NOTHING.
can you tell today was one of those days for me?
I am deff the type of person who gets overwhelmed very easily, and that is one thing I wish I could change about myself. when this type of day happens I need to just take 2 minutes to sit back and think. (or go get a good cup of coffee..)
when you have those days, just take a deep breath and realize that things could be so much worse.
at least we have a bed to sleep in, a back up pair of leggings, and cute headbands to tame our hair! oh and most importantly a starbucks on the way to class. 😉
long story short: count your blessings because some people would LOVE to have the things that we complain about ❤